GUEST POST: The Prettiest, Smartest, Most Darling Girl in the Whole Wide World on Brats/Bratting

One of the best conversations that came out of my Bratting blog, was with a newer scene friend of mine, Vee. She’s a lot of fun to chat with and I have enjoyed engaging in teasing banter with her – for her kink, she enjoys because embarrassed, teased, and bullied within that context. My bratting blog sparked a really interesting conversation between us that actually clarified a lot for me about her kink and who she is, and it was one I really enjoyed. We joked about her writing a “response” of sorts and she actually wrote it! I think this is a fun dive into an alternate view on brats, bratting, and a manifestation of that mindset that is fascinating to me. I obviously don’t personally relate to this, but it should be clear by now that my favorite topic is discussing the manifestations and intellectual perspective on how our specific fetish exists within us and being able to articulate that like Vee has, is special indeed. So, I hope you enjoy this manifesto from her. Please leave a comment and let us know! The discussion is at least half the fun of blogging.

-M

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The Bratting Thing

It took me a long time to make it through this post, for complicated reasons. One is that I know I am going to piss some people off. That’s ok, but it’s a bit exhausting to do so. The other is that the original format linked to some other blogs and mentioned some interactions with people that I do not currently feel able to freely write about, and frankly, that pisses me off. I am exhausted by not being able to write what I want, how I want to write it, and in a way that is most meaningful to me. So I had to reformat this and I didn’t like that and I was mad about it and thus, it took me months to write. I’m not sure I like the final form now and I may edit it once it’s posted, but here it is.

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My AMA…

Well, to be honest, I didn’t get a lot of questions. Embarrassing.

Someone on Fetlife asked: “What do you do for work, and do you like it? What would you want to do if money was no issue?”

My Answer: I am an Ops Manager for a tech startup. I do like it, because I get to work company wide and use a lot of different skillsets – I manage HR, payroll, benefits, procurement, monthly financial close, onboarding/offboarding, swag, events, exports & shipping…I like that there are a lot of different parts, it suits my personality. I wouldn’t like having to do the same thing over and over. If money was no issue, I’d get a PhD in Literature with a focus on contemporary post-colonial feminist lit, from diaspora to home. Or something like that 🙂

Another Fetlife question: “Favorite song to be spanked to?”

My Answer: I don’t really like music while I play. Honestly, I don’t listen to music much at all – I enjoy music, but I am picky and tend to listen to a single song or a few, and then turn it off. I get easily overstimulated by auditory input. I enjoy a very relaxing playlist when I want to rest/sleep/etc and I bet I’d enjoy being strapped to it probably. A stress relief situation maybe.

Another from Fetlife: “Favorite punishment you have received?”

My Answer: I mean? I wouldn’t really classify a punishment in terms of…favorites?

My favorite…interactions? scenes? discipline? is when I feel fully seen, exposed, vulnerable, and safe in all of that. Seen and held and cared for. It’s happened a few times and those moments are all cherished as favorite memories. To know someone sees you and your insecurity, your need, and can meet you there at that point, and give you the discipline that feels appropriate for it? Heady as fuck. As for details – forthcoming eventually in blogs, but I write about one such moment here and here and here.

And one last Fetlife Q: “Is there an implement you don’t like because it just does nothing for you?”

My Answer: Implements with holes – aesthetically I don’t like them and in paddles they concern me. In leather it just makes me think the strap has been ruined!

Plastic/delrin/lexan – they’re all sting and that doesn’t do it for me. I prefer really domestic and “real” feeling things the most, and these feel the most BDSM-y or gimmicky.

On NGL I got…one, and there was one I missed from a few months ago.

Q: Do you and your partner have a large temperature gap for your bedroom for sleeping purpose? And if so are you the cold room or the warm room sleeper?

A: No! We both like it pretty cool – we set our bedroom AC to 65-68 in the summer and enjoy having the window open in the cooler months. My husband is more tolerant of heat, in general, though.

Q: Thoughts on American cheese (particularly the deli kind). Does it have it’s place, or always bad?

A: I think it has its place – that is, the deli kind. I don’t like the Kraft kind at all. I also prefer white American to yellow, and grew up on it, so often choose it for Sammies – only choosing cheddar otherwise for them. Though I like other cheeses for other purposes.

There ya go – the nitty gritty you never wanted to know 😛 I will try and compile a few other FL AMA questions into other posts, as well.

-M