Lines as Affirmation

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This is a piece I wrote for someone to explain my headspace around line writing (in October 2023), so I’ve lightly edited it to make it “public” facing, but it’s something I think about often, since lines (and essays!) are a significant component of the real-but-not-real-life discipline I’ve done. Lines are not unheard of in the spanking community, but the person I have written lines for, has expectations for them. Expectations that make the act itself structure and discipline, not simply busy work – though they could theoretically also be used as a consequence, I don’t have experience with that (yet!). This was written after the first time I wrote some lines on my own and in a much less formal situation, but before the first time I wrote lines for real, which was pretty cool and came a few weeks later.

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Fiction: The Study

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This was inspired by a writing prompt from a spanking story discord server to write a spanking story in exactly 100 words. It’s a scenario that’s been in my head as fantasy for a long time but I struggle to write fantasies like that sometimes because I get bogged down in the details. I enjoy the details in my head but they can make a story seem tedious. Drilling down to the absolute core of it like this though? Delectable.

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Nervously, she knocked on the study door and then waited, back against the wall next to it, eyes closed. Elsie squirmed in the formal uniform, unused to wearing a blazer and boater.

A moment later, her eyes opened with a shock as a hand firmly gripped her ear and lead her into the office.

“Over the stool, miss, on your toes.”

She obeyed, gripping a rung on the other side as he slowly and carefully began to fold her skirt up into the small of her back.

“Twelve, today.”

“Yes, sir.”

She whimpered as he swished the cane behind her.

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Hope you enjoy this little vignette and the imagery it inspires!

-M

Embarrassment in (as?) Kink

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There was a recent discussion on Fetlife about embarrassment and spanking. The person who posted the status that prompted it, said she had never felt embarrassed about a bare bottom spanking and, the real inspiration for this post here was this particular line, “I don’t really understand the embarrassment narrative.” The good news is, no one else has to get it or understand it, except maybe your spanking partner, if embarrassment works for you. That’s true of all facets of your kink!

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On Obedience (oh, and defiance!)

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I’ve talked a lot about how bratting doesn’t work for me in my spanking play but that’s not to discount playfulness. I enjoy teasing my friends and loved ones simply as a display of affection, but what it lacks is provocation. The intent is not to manipulate the person into spanking me but rather, to connect with them. If someone I trusted wanted to whack me in that context, I’d be open to it. So why do I get spanked? Because I like it! I need it. It’s good for me. I am calmer, happier, and better regulated when I am being spanked regularly. I sleep better. I think all of this is true because being spanked makes me feel seen, cared for, loved, taken care of, safe. It’s not that I need it to function – it’s just so much nicer with it in my life. Uniform gives me access to discipline and the mindset/headspace it provides. Obedience is a big part of that uniform discipline but is also ever present, since I don’t only get spanked in uniform.

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Types and Tones

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Although the core of my spanking fetish is CP/discipline, I enjoy* a lot of different types of spankings. They feel differently but they also carry different tones and headspaces. I don’t know many spankos who enjoy only one kind of spanking but they do exist – I’ve left out directly sexual spanking here because it’s not a big part of how I prefer to play in general and tends to be reserved for specific moods and with my husband. That said, what people think of as sex or sexual can vary widely – for me, that usually means genital. I’ll be focusing on the primary ways I enjoy & prefer to engage with my spanking kink.

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