My earliest spanking fantasies – as mentioned previously – focused on punishment and discipline dynamics. I used these terms interchangeably until recently but was usually meaning punishment. Something that I’ve been working my brain around in the last several months is the differences between the two and why I’ve struggled to identify what it was I really wanted. I should probably start with how I define these two. It’s important to note that these are only my definitions and analysis – there are as many ways of looking at how spanking fits into punishment and discipline as there are participants. These needs are person specific!
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What makes a kink?
In an old house in Paris
Madeline, by Ludwig Bemelmans
That was covered in vines
Lived twelve little girls
In two straight lines
The smallest one, was Madeline
I mentioned in my previous two posts that spanking thoughts and fantasies started around the age of 4-5 for me. The reality is, that’s as far back as I can remember, but it’s possible they were there earlier. I was not spanked (as such) nor do I have memories of seeing other kids spanked, so I don’t know what the catalyst for realization was – there was something, but I can’t identify it. Maybe it was a TV show or a book? Tom spanking Jerry? The playful birthday spankings common in the early 90s that I was subject to every year? Whether innate or forming at some early key point of development, I am unsure. I think, pretty firmly, that this is just how I was made – but at what point was that path set? I don’t know. I feel comfortable saying it’s “lifelong” though.
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