I meant to finish and post this ages ago – WordPress tells me I started it on Nov 24 which is over a month ago. With the end of the year looming, I didn’t want to let this train of thought get lost, and although I have a lot I want to say and haven’t been saying it for complicated personal reasons, I want this space to thrive and I miss being here. I am looking forward to all 2025 has to offer and am sincere when I say I want writing more here to be a significant part of that. Now, onto what I started saying forever ago.

This post was inspired by Hermione’s Brunch post from a few weeks ago, where she asked her readers about what they do after a spanking. I found this an interesting post, and it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot in the last year. The responses she got surprised me in that they were rather practical – not so much about aftercare explicitly. Since aftercare can be an important part of a scene for me I thought I’d share my thoughts. Not everyone sees it the same, of course, but I think most spankos can agree something is necessary in the after scene space. Aftercare isn’t just for the bottom though – it’s also for the top – something I’m a bit ashamed to admit I hadn’t considered until more recently. I’ll go through my own experiences and preferences and then expand on that a bit more.

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