Category: After Dark

After Dark: Bottom…things & Orange Socks

I will be using the “After Dark” category to identify writings that touch on topics beyond spanking or that may be more sexual for some folks, so people can skip them if they want. There’s no shame in these topics for me, “After Dark” is just a fun term to refer to adult content…within adult content ha!

In a recent post, I mentioned Daniel and I have an “orange socks” rule about asking permission – you know, for me to touch myself. Our permission rule only applies to masturbation/orgasm, but the concept of an “orange socks” rule came from the Usenet news groups alt.sex.spanking (ASS) and soc.sexuality.spanking (SSS). I was too young for ASS but I found SSS (I’ve linked here to the google group archive because it’s easily accessible) when I was a teenager and it’s part of where I got my online start and found stories to read – the newsgroup gave rise to many of the classic spanking authors folks still remember today, and was the origination for Laura’s Spanking Corner. I even became a moderator of the group later on when I was 19. I don’t know who originated this concept, though an older SSS veteran might, but it’s the idea that you can have something basically arbitrary with no real world implications, like wearing orange socks for example, where when you do it, it prompts a disciplinary-style spanking. It’s a way of signaling a need! So I can confess to having an orgasm without permission, to prompt this kind of play.

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Fiction: Lending a Hand to Disobedience (Part 1)

A long held fantasy, as a dream…

Orgasm control or having to ask permission to touch myself, and being “punished” with spanking, is a deep and long held fantasy of mine. It’s also the first non-spanko thing my husband and I connected on. We’ve had an “orange socks” rule about asking permission, just about since we met. That means, I have to ask him permission to touch myself or orgasm, but it’s not a “real” rule in that there are real-world implications for breaking it. But “breaking” it is between us, a way to set a tone and headspace for some discipline oriented play, for me to express submission and service. More intense orgasm control is definitely in my head, as well, and often comes back to my desire to please, serve, submit.

I rarely dream about these things – usually only spanking, but like I said in my last post, I have been reconciling different aspects of my kink and how they mesh (or don’t) together. The male tops/spankers in my dreams are usually, historically, unidentifiable. Not that they are anonymous or masked, but I don’t see their face in the dream, my “view” or perspective is from the side or behind, watching, so I can see myself but never the top. They’re more of an idea or concept, embodying the feeling of the scenario and blending the voices of those I have played with or talked about playing with.

I haven’t been having many spanking dreams lately, and even before, most of them were the same classic hard OTK spanking they always are, with some slight variations. I started 2025 off with a bang though, with this one. Apparently my NYE champagne was inspiring and I woke up on the first of the year having to contend with this.

This dream melds together some vague real-life scenarios (like being sent to bed & the idea of being caught touching myself which has happened…uh, a few times in RL with Daniel!) and fantasized about ones, such as a bedtime spanking that instead of being cozy, is hard because I was cheeky and earned it, thigh smacking on its own, uniform being a part of discipline, etc. It’s not about a specific person or real-life event, but it’s one of those that could happen, that I’d even like to happen, someday, even. The writing is more colloquial but I wanted it to feel more like how I did when I wrote it, like I was sharing it with a friend. But this is me, again, reconciling these different aspects of my kink with each other – how can they fit together? Will the fitting together work for me? What parts?

I hope you enjoy this sharing of my dream, as much as I enjoyed the dream itself. I woke up a bit confused, but content. Dreams have a surrealist feel to them, so I’ve embellished in parts, of course.

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