It’s been a long time since I was a “newbie” in the spanking community. Honestly, because of how I entered, I’m not sure I’d ever have classified myself as such, but everyone must start somewhere! I got online and started looking up spanking things, poking around online communities, engaging in forums, etc when I was…12. I got spanked for the first time by another spanko, when I was 16 – he was close in age to me, we met online, and he was able to travel for a few weeks in the US. My mom loved him. I started actively engaging with the goal of community building around the age of 17 (a few months before my birthday), and made a rather aggressive and bold leap when I finally turned 18. By then, I had friends, accounts, etc. No one who knew my age allowed me to engage until I was 18 of course, but after my birthday I had a lot of support. I didn’t so much lie as omit the information. I was in college, so I often didn’t even need to clarify whether or not I was 18. Not many people come out immediately when they’re 18/19, but it does happen. Those folks tend to have a slightly easier time IMO because of the beautiful arrogance of youth. It’s much harder to be confident or at least cocky, when you have some adult life experience under your belt.
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I’m alive! AMA! Q&A!
I’m alive and well – and well-spanked for what it’s worth. Had the best punishment-vibes spanking from a dear friend on Saturday. I still have tender bruises today! So. While I am working on a longer post answering an idea prompt from my Fetlife AMA, I am going to open up the AMA here, to you all. You can ask me a question at my NGL link here, or on Fetlife, and I’ll answer them in an upcoming blog post. There is a 3 question limit per user on Fetlife, though, until I close/open it again. If you don’t feel the need to ask anonymously, then please leave a comment on this post!
A few of the ideas I got recently from Fetlife AMA are: advice to newcomers, including ideas about attraction and body image (this is the post I am currently working on); bratting vs disrespect, healthy banter, etc.; navigating balancing parenthood & kink needs/wants; how the spanking community has changed/things that I like/dislike about it. These are big topics, but feel free to use the AMA for any question you might have (someone once asked my favorite noodle!). If they’re inappropriate, I won’t answer them and on Fetlife, I’d report you.
-M
R/L: When punishment is earned
I’ve written in the past about how spanking works between my husband and I and how we connect, how we are working on connecting, etc. We don’t have a domestic discipline relationship of course, but I’ve been making a better effort in communication and he’s been making a ton of effort to hear me and see me and try to meet those discipline needs in ways that work for him also. This has meant a lot of play-play, and what most would call maintenance spankings. But on Saturday night, he caught me off guard – in the best way, and I got a spanking that left me feeling truly punished and chastised. Saturday was rough y’all. I was an emotional mess. I volunteered to drive 2.5 hours (each way) to help out a friend and it was the best decision because it kept me off my phone and occupied for a while. More past the jump and there’s NSFW photos in this post.
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