Oops. Everyone needs a break, right? I didn’t intend to take a break from blogging for June, but it just sort of happened. I started two other blogs after I posted my May Book Round Up – one about bratting (and why I don’t like it – ha!) and one about my first spanking ever, because June 21 was the 20th anniversary of my first “adult” spanking, meaning a spanking from someone who shared my fetish. When I posted this on Fetlife and in a Discord I am in, it occurred to me, some folks who are married to vanilla’s may never get spanked by someone who shares their fetish, and my categorization could feel alienating. That is not my intention. I think perhaps “first spanking with my fetish in mind” would fit better, but it also happened to be with someone who shared it, so that’s an important designation for me. I’m not going to share the details in this post, but I will finish that one and get it posted ASAP.
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The May Book Round Up
Ahh May – a slower month for reading but I read all available in one series (more to come) and a rather large tomb at the end, so I feel good about it all. There was a lot of rain this month and a lot of distracting myself, so I’ve also played a lot of video games (Disney Dreamlight Valley, if you’re curious) while listening to these. All of these were audio except for This is Pleasure and Bad Behavior, though the latter is included in the Audible Plus library, if you’re curious, and I think Gaitskill’s reading of “Secretary” is excellent (though found her difficult as a reader of other stories in the collection).
Continue reading “The May Book Round Up”My AMA…
Well, to be honest, I didn’t get a lot of questions. Embarrassing.
Someone on Fetlife asked: “What do you do for work, and do you like it? What would you want to do if money was no issue?”
My Answer: I am an Ops Manager for a tech startup. I do like it, because I get to work company wide and use a lot of different skillsets – I manage HR, payroll, benefits, procurement, monthly financial close, onboarding/offboarding, swag, events, exports & shipping…I like that there are a lot of different parts, it suits my personality. I wouldn’t like having to do the same thing over and over. If money was no issue, I’d get a PhD in Literature with a focus on contemporary post-colonial feminist lit, from diaspora to home. Or something like that 🙂
Another Fetlife question: “Favorite song to be spanked to?”
My Answer: I don’t really like music while I play. Honestly, I don’t listen to music much at all – I enjoy music, but I am picky and tend to listen to a single song or a few, and then turn it off. I get easily overstimulated by auditory input. I enjoy a very relaxing playlist when I want to rest/sleep/etc and I bet I’d enjoy being strapped to it probably. A stress relief situation maybe.
Another from Fetlife: “Favorite punishment you have received?”
My Answer: I mean? I wouldn’t really classify a punishment in terms of…favorites?
My favorite…interactions? scenes? discipline? is when I feel fully seen, exposed, vulnerable, and safe in all of that. Seen and held and cared for. It’s happened a few times and those moments are all cherished as favorite memories. To know someone sees you and your insecurity, your need, and can meet you there at that point, and give you the discipline that feels appropriate for it? Heady as fuck. As for details – forthcoming eventually in blogs, but I write about one such moment here and here and here.
And one last Fetlife Q: “Is there an implement you don’t like because it just does nothing for you?”
My Answer: Implements with holes – aesthetically I don’t like them and in paddles they concern me. In leather it just makes me think the strap has been ruined!
Plastic/delrin/lexan – they’re all sting and that doesn’t do it for me. I prefer really domestic and “real” feeling things the most, and these feel the most BDSM-y or gimmicky.
On NGL I got…one, and there was one I missed from a few months ago.
Q: Do you and your partner have a large temperature gap for your bedroom for sleeping purpose? And if so are you the cold room or the warm room sleeper?
A: No! We both like it pretty cool – we set our bedroom AC to 65-68 in the summer and enjoy having the window open in the cooler months. My husband is more tolerant of heat, in general, though.
Q: Thoughts on American cheese (particularly the deli kind). Does it have it’s place, or always bad?
A: I think it has its place – that is, the deli kind. I don’t like the Kraft kind at all. I also prefer white American to yellow, and grew up on it, so often choose it for Sammies – only choosing cheddar otherwise for them. Though I like other cheeses for other purposes.
There ya go – the nitty gritty you never wanted to know 😛 I will try and compile a few other FL AMA questions into other posts, as well.
-M