Mismatch in Kink Partnerships

As it so happens, my last post was my 50th! Wish it had been something more meaningful than my return from vacation, ha! I started this blog in January 2024 with the hopes of re-building some sort of community and re-connecting with other people who share this thing we do, and get back to the sort of long-form writing I miss the most about the earlier online-spanking-community days. I think I’ve succeeded. There aren’t a lot of readers on a day-to-day but I know folks are here and engaged and that brings me joy and keeps me interested in writing and sharing – both of which are good for me whether there’s an audience or not.

Onward to kink mismatches…

Many people believe that if they partner with someone who shares their fetish, everything will fall into place – I was one of them, too! The reality was much different once I finally started searching for a life/nesting partner and started to explore connections with people I wasn’t perfectly aligned with, kink wise.

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Back into the Swing

I am back from vacation, where I had very limited internet access and only on my phone – which isn’t ideal for writing or blogging. I brought my computer but didn’t open it once! We were on a cruise to the Bahamas so there was very little privacy – cruise cabins not being known for their size, especially when there is a kiddo involved! We did get some grown-up time though, thanks to the kids club, and spent a lot of time in the thermal spa, relaxing in steam rooms, jacuzzi’s, and saunas. One evening, I even got a cheeky hand-spanking – posted a photo on Fetlife! Apparently, the skirt I’d worn that day was inspiring. Luckily, we hadn’t heard any noise on either side from other guests, so it felt safe enough. Especially when everyone seemed to be out at dinner. When he was done, he stood me in the corner on our balcony, to enjoy the view and admire his handiwork. It was a lovely little bit of connection and felt a bit naughtier than a hotel, but also safe. It would have been nice to get to play more with our alone time, but it didn’t happen.

Kink still feels far away in terms of fantasy/thoughts/dreams, etc but I’m trying to engage socially because it’s good for my soul and alleviates some of the depression and anxiety I am dealing with. Same with writing about kink. Eventually, it has to get better, right?

In that regard, I’ve got a few blog posts in the pipeline. One is about mismatches in kink with partners (mostly my own, but broadly, too), a part 2 to my story Lending a Hand to Disobedience, a post about the real-life application of orgasm control (this makes it sound more formal than it is, though) in my own relationship, and, well, a few others. I am most likely to post the one about kink mismatches first, since I’ve touched on it in several posts already.

Anything you’d like to see me write about?

-M

Housekeeping

If you’ve been poking around the last few days, you’ll have noticed I am playing with blog themes, colors, layout, menus, etc. If you have any feedback, I’d love it! Dark vs light colored theme? Sidebar or no sidebar? Widgets in the footers? I’ll keep what I’ve got today for a little bit and see how I like it, also.

I added some menus a while ago, to make certain things easier to find. The menu under About lists posts that give a bigger picture on who I am, things that delve more into me personally. These give a better idea of me as a whole which is why they’re filed under “about.” I also made menus to organize my fiction writing and posts about my RL play, in case you want to find something quickly.

As for Kink Resources – I am undecided on keeping that one main page or breaking it down into multiple pages – reading room, implements, etc. in addition to my toy box page. Any input there?

Hope you enjoyed yesterday’s story!

-M