Aftercare – who, and what, it’s for?

I meant to finish and post this ages ago – WordPress tells me I started it on Nov 24 which is over a month ago. With the end of the year looming, I didn’t want to let this train of thought get lost, and although I have a lot I want to say and haven’t been saying it for complicated personal reasons, I want this space to thrive and I miss being here. I am looking forward to all 2025 has to offer and am sincere when I say I want writing more here to be a significant part of that. Now, onto what I started saying forever ago.

This post was inspired by Hermione’s Brunch post from a few weeks ago, where she asked her readers about what they do after a spanking. I found this an interesting post, and it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot in the last year. The responses she got surprised me in that they were rather practical – not so much about aftercare explicitly. Since aftercare can be an important part of a scene for me I thought I’d share my thoughts. Not everyone sees it the same, of course, but I think most spankos can agree something is necessary in the after scene space. Aftercare isn’t just for the bottom though – it’s also for the top – something I’m a bit ashamed to admit I hadn’t considered until more recently. I’ll go through my own experiences and preferences and then expand on that a bit more.

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I’m Feeling “Droppy”

[I am not droppy, that’s just the blog title!]

Although this blog is really for spankos and most of you are probably familiar with these terms, I am going to expand on this one, because it is relevant for another post I am working on, that will be posted after this, about aftercare and I didn’t want to get sidetracked in that conversation. Maybe there’s some newbies reading here, or someone who never had a name for this feeling. We all know it’s possible to be “emotional” during a spanking – ie. cry, but it’s rare for it to happen from pain alone. At least part of that is because of the natural pain killers that our bodies release, which turn this painful thing (spanking) into pleasure (for some of us), or at least something we can physically endure. Of course, a significant part is also because emotional vulnerability can be a lot scarier and take a lot more trust and time to build with someone beyond playing with them.

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A Perfect Bedtime Spanking

This is a deep peak inside my head so it feels a bit vulnerable, what I often think about while falling asleep or when thinking about a cozy bedtime spanking. It feels very personal, this look inside an ideal fantasy. I enjoy the thought of being the last thing someone needs to take care of or deal with, before they themselves go to bed. The last item on a do-do list – do the dishes, check; tidy the living room, check; put Marie to bed, check. It’s not usually practical with the realities of day-to-day life and parenthood, but it’s in there.

This is one version of what a perfect bedtime spanking could look like for me. Other versions would feel just as complete but this is one that occupies a happy little nook that I feel comfortable sharing and think of often. Accidentally posted a PW protected version of this a few days ago before it was ready for the world.

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