So you’re fat and wanna get spanked?

(Sorry, I lied about the next post because this topic flew into my head and well, that’s how writing works! My thoughts on bratting will be coming forthwith!)

I am a fat woman. Hush. I don’t want to hear the “but you’re beautiful!” “you’re not fat!” etc. comments. I literally am. I weigh 264lbs and I am 5’2″ tall. I am fat. I never said I wasn’t beautiful! I happen to think (most of the time anyway) that I am quite adorable and even beautiful. I just also happen to be fat. I am also a red head, a mom, a reader, and many other things. Though none of those other things impacts my spanking play more than my body type – except maybe being a mom and all that goes with it. I’m not saying it has always been easy or simple or without complication – it still isn’t, but I exist in this world in a fat body, and I am still worthy of having my kink needs met in a way that works for me. I wrote once about When Fantasy Meets Reality and some of the logistics of getting the kind of spanking play I want, while living in the body I have – and even coordinating that with the bodies of my spankers, some of which are much taller than me, some not so much, some large also, some much smaller.

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So you’re new here!

It’s been a long time since I was a “newbie” in the spanking community. Honestly, because of how I entered, I’m not sure I’d ever have classified myself as such, but everyone must start somewhere! I got online and started looking up spanking things, poking around online communities, engaging in forums, etc when I was…12. I got spanked for the first time by another spanko, when I was 16 – he was close in age to me, we met online, and he was able to travel for a few weeks in the US. My mom loved him. I started actively engaging with the goal of community building around the age of 17 (a few months before my birthday), and made a rather aggressive and bold leap when I finally turned 18. By then, I had friends, accounts, etc. No one who knew my age allowed me to engage until I was 18 of course, but after my birthday I had a lot of support. I didn’t so much lie as omit the information. I was in college, so I often didn’t even need to clarify whether or not I was 18. Not many people come out immediately when they’re 18/19, but it does happen. Those folks tend to have a slightly easier time IMO because of the beautiful arrogance of youth. It’s much harder to be confident or at least cocky, when you have some adult life experience under your belt.

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I’m alive! AMA! Q&A!

I’m alive and well – and well-spanked for what it’s worth. Had the best punishment-vibes spanking from a dear friend on Saturday. I still have tender bruises today! So. While I am working on a longer post answering an idea prompt from my Fetlife AMA, I am going to open up the AMA here, to you all. You can ask me a question at my NGL link here, or on Fetlife, and I’ll answer them in an upcoming blog post. There is a 3 question limit per user on Fetlife, though, until I close/open it again. If you don’t feel the need to ask anonymously, then please leave a comment on this post!

A few of the ideas I got recently from Fetlife AMA are: advice to newcomers, including ideas about attraction and body image (this is the post I am currently working on); bratting vs disrespect, healthy banter, etc.; navigating balancing parenthood & kink needs/wants; how the spanking community has changed/things that I like/dislike about it. These are big topics, but feel free to use the AMA for any question you might have (someone once asked my favorite noodle!). If they’re inappropriate, I won’t answer them and on Fetlife, I’d report you.

-M