It took me a long time to make it through this post, for complicated reasons. One is that I know I am going to piss some people off. That’s ok, but it’s a bit exhausting to do so. The other is that the original format linked to some other blogs and mentioned some interactions with people that I do not currently feel able to freely write about, and frankly, that pisses me off. I am exhausted by not being able to write what I want, how I want to write it, and in a way that is most meaningful to me. So I had to reformat this and I didn’t like that and I was mad about it and thus, it took me months to write. I’m not sure I like the final form now and I may edit it once it’s posted, but here it is.