GUEST POST: The Prettiest, Smartest, Most Darling Girl in the Whole Wide World on Brats/Bratting

One of the best conversations that came out of my Bratting blog, was with a newer scene friend of mine, Vee. She’s a lot of fun to chat with and I have enjoyed engaging in teasing banter with her – for her kink, she enjoys because embarrassed, teased, and bullied within that context. My bratting blog sparked a really interesting conversation between us that actually clarified a lot for me about her kink and who she is, and it was one I really enjoyed. We joked about her writing a “response” of sorts and she actually wrote it! I think this is a fun dive into an alternate view on brats, bratting, and a manifestation of that mindset that is fascinating to me. I obviously don’t personally relate to this, but it should be clear by now that my favorite topic is discussing the manifestations and intellectual perspective on how our specific fetish exists within us and being able to articulate that like Vee has, is special indeed. So, I hope you enjoy this manifesto from her. Please leave a comment and let us know! The discussion is at least half the fun of blogging.

-M

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So you’re new here!

It’s been a long time since I was a “newbie” in the spanking community. Honestly, because of how I entered, I’m not sure I’d ever have classified myself as such, but everyone must start somewhere! I got online and started looking up spanking things, poking around online communities, engaging in forums, etc when I was…12. I got spanked for the first time by another spanko, when I was 16 – he was close in age to me, we met online, and he was able to travel for a few weeks in the US. My mom loved him. I started actively engaging with the goal of community building around the age of 17 (a few months before my birthday), and made a rather aggressive and bold leap when I finally turned 18. By then, I had friends, accounts, etc. No one who knew my age allowed me to engage until I was 18 of course, but after my birthday I had a lot of support. I didn’t so much lie as omit the information. I was in college, so I often didn’t even need to clarify whether or not I was 18. Not many people come out immediately when they’re 18/19, but it does happen. Those folks tend to have a slightly easier time IMO because of the beautiful arrogance of youth. It’s much harder to be confident or at least cocky, when you have some adult life experience under your belt.

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And what of (“mainstream”) sexuality?

I’m alive, I promise! Just busy and distracted. In good and not-so-good ways, but mostly life is chugging along and I am trying to stay busy.

I wrote recently – well, sort of recently? that spanking is my sexuality, but also so much more. But sexuality is complex. It’s not binary, as many think. So spanking is the core of my sexuality, yes, but there’s more to it. A little more than a year ago, I updated my Fetlife profile from heterosexual (which I never really was, if I’m honest with myself) to demisexual. What does that mean? Someone who identifies as demisexual typically only feels sexual attraction to someone after developing a strong emotional bond with them. This has always been true for me but I didn’t realize it was unusual or atypical. I can definitely find physical characteristics appealing, but I am not typically attracted to people physically, first. However, if I feel very emotionally connected to someone, I find them wildly attractive and the closer we get, the deeper I fall.

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