It took me a long time to make it through this post, for complicated reasons. One is that I know I am going to piss some people off. That’s ok, but it’s a bit exhausting to do so. The other is that the original format linked to some other blogs and mentioned some interactions with people that I do not currently feel able to freely write about, and frankly, that pisses me off. I am exhausted by not being able to write what I want, how I want to write it, and in a way that is most meaningful to me. So I had to reformat this and I didn’t like that and I was mad about it and thus, it took me months to write. I’m not sure I like the final form now and I may edit it once it’s posted, but here it is.
Continue reading “The Bratting Thing”Category: Musings
So you’re fat and wanna get spanked?
(Sorry, I lied about the next post because this topic flew into my head and well, that’s how writing works! My thoughts on bratting will be coming forthwith!)
I am a fat woman. Hush. I don’t want to hear the “but you’re beautiful!” “you’re not fat!” etc. comments. I literally am. I weigh 264lbs and I am 5’2″ tall. I am fat. I never said I wasn’t beautiful! I happen to think (most of the time anyway) that I am quite adorable and even beautiful. I just also happen to be fat. I am also a red head, a mom, a reader, and many other things. Though none of those other things impacts my spanking play more than my body type – except maybe being a mom and all that goes with it. I’m not saying it has always been easy or simple or without complication – it still isn’t, but I exist in this world in a fat body, and I am still worthy of having my kink needs met in a way that works for me. I wrote once about When Fantasy Meets Reality and some of the logistics of getting the kind of spanking play I want, while living in the body I have – and even coordinating that with the bodies of my spankers, some of which are much taller than me, some not so much, some large also, some much smaller.
Continue reading “So you’re fat and wanna get spanked?”Summer Break!
Oops. Everyone needs a break, right? I didn’t intend to take a break from blogging for June, but it just sort of happened. I started two other blogs after I posted my May Book Round Up – one about bratting (and why I don’t like it – ha!) and one about my first spanking ever, because June 21 was the 20th anniversary of my first “adult” spanking, meaning a spanking from someone who shared my fetish. When I posted this on Fetlife and in a Discord I am in, it occurred to me, some folks who are married to vanilla’s may never get spanked by someone who shares their fetish, and my categorization could feel alienating. That is not my intention. I think perhaps “first spanking with my fetish in mind” would fit better, but it also happened to be with someone who shared it, so that’s an important designation for me. I’m not going to share the details in this post, but I will finish that one and get it posted ASAP.
Continue reading “Summer Break!”